How to Come Out to Your Friends

If you make the decision to come out to your friends, then you must be prepared for an array of emotions and responses on their part. Some of your friends may be less supportive and it may require more time to communicate with them properly. Follow a few basic steps and you should have an easier time coming out to your friends as well as other people.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Quiet place where you and your friends can be comfortable and talk

1. Be secure with your own sexuality before attempting to explain to others how you feel. If you are struggling with your feelings, make sure you are emotionally ready to speak to others.
2. Choose a time when your closest friends can be around you for support. It may be easier to speak to a very close friend first, before approaching others.
3. Share with your friends your true feelings, and explain to them that your choice to come out does not affect your friendship with them.
4. Listen to questions from your friends and be prepared for a range of emotions on their part. Reassure your friends that you still care about them, no matter what they think at the time.
5. Be open to further questions or needs from your friends, as some of them will take longer to come to terms with your sexuality than others. Some of them may never share the same relationship with you after you come out.

Tips & Warnings

• Those who resent you for your choices were never friends, do not feel badly if they abandon you.
• Be prepared for the rumor mill, as some people cannot resist repeat what you have said in private to those who were never meant to know.