How to Choose Your Best Man

By eHow Weddings Editor

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Maybe you made a promise to your best friend years ago that he'd be the best man in your wedding, but you haven't spoken for a while. Maybe you're best buds don't hold the same place in your life that you brother always has. How do you choose your best man? Here are some suggestions.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Step1

Consider the role of the best man. Your best man is someone who will hold the rings, be a signing witness to your vows and who will toast your bride at the reception.

Step2

Consider the popular choices for best man: your brother, your fiance's brother or a close friend.

Step3

Think about what you want in your best man and talk it over with your fiance.

Step4

Keep in mind that it is your wedding and, though a friend might be hurt at first by not being chosen, your friends and family will understand and respect your choices.

Step5

Narrow down your options based on the characteristics that you are looking for in your best man.

Step6

Choose the person whom you believe will best be there for you–—both at your wedding, the reception and while you are planning the wedding.

Tips & Warnings

Keep in mind that your choice really is up to you.
Don't choose someone solely based on other people's opinions; choose the person that's right for you.

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MysticMary said

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on 1/27/2008 Picking a best man surely can be a hard decision, but unless there are serious problems in your family (like convicted felons, liars, cheats, etc.), first priority should be given to choosing someone in your family. If you have a normal family, those are the people who will still be there for your silver and golden anniversaries. Your best bud from high school or college, or the guy you hang out at the bar or gym or who is a coworker might not be there in your life even a few years down the road. Are you and your wife going to want to be reminded everytime you look at your wedding photos that your wedding party choices (and especially the best man and maid of honor) really weren't the best choices? Again, if your family is at least somewhat normal, your brother already has ties to you and those ties will only grow stronger over the years.

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