How to Tell Her You Love Her

Telling her "I love you" is an important step in building intimacy in a relationship. There are different ways of going about it, but you should always make sure that you mean it before you say it to your girlfriend. Never say it just because you think it's what she wants to hear, say it only if you mean it.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Flowers
• Romantic Gifts

1. Think about when and where you want to tell her. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell her at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date.

2. Set the mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers or a romantic gift.

3. Look at her directly, take her hand and tell her how positive you feel about her. Give her examples of things you really like about her. Be sincere.

4. Tell her how you feel being with her, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with her.

5. Follow these positive statements with telling her you love her in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you."

Tips & Warnings

• Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for her possible response if you are not sure whether she feels the same way about you. For example: If you are hoping she will say "I love you" in return, what if she doesn't?
• Decide if you are ready to be that vulnerable and if you could handle whatever she may say.
• Go for it if you feel ready to take the risk. Love is risky!
• Be sober when you proclaim your love. If you have to drink to tell her how you feel, you are not ready.

Resources

• Bringing people together - Date.com
• 100% free online dating at Plenty of Fish

[achieve42]

on 2/10/2009 You know that your tips are good not only for those looking for new love, but even for those of us that have been married for 30+ years. We still need to look for ways to keep the spart of love alive.

[rolfen]

on 9/6/2008 Love is risky.. that is scary... sometimes very scarey... I'm not sure, but maybe the more the fear the better the reward.
Remember, it doesn come free. You will have to face your fear.

[bobmorris1234]

on 7/26/2008 can someone give me advice please,I'm now in my late twenties about five years ago, i was the manager of a bar (having become a manager only about a month before) and a new member of staff joined my team. She is about 4 years younger than me, and is now a very highly paid proffessional, where as i am a poorly paid civil servant) I really liked her but had always been told by managers that taught me how to do the job that "having relationships with staff was unacceptable". However she made it clear that she liked me and one thing led to another. I, however decided that i should follow more experienced managers advice, chose to not take this any further. The girl involved, about 3 months after, got together with my best friend. The girl left where i was working about this time. She and i became very close and she talked about how she regretted me not paying her more attention, and one more

[bobmorris1234]

on 7/26/2008 can someone give me advice please,I'm now in my late twenties about five years ago, i was the manager of a bar (having become a manager only about a month before) and a new member of staff joined my team. She is about 4 years younger than me, and is now a very highly paid proffessional, where as i am a poorly paid civil servant) I really liked her but had always been told by managers that taught me how to do the job that "having relationships with staff was unacceptable". However she made it clear that she liked me and one thing led to another. I, however decided that i should follow more experienced managers advice, chose to not take this any further. The girl involved, about 3 months after, got together with my best friend. The girl left where i was working about this time. She and i became very close and she talked about how she regretted me not paying her more attention, and one more

[bobmorris1234]

on 7/26/2008 can someone give me advice please,I'm now in my late twenties about five years ago, i was the manager of a bar (having become a manager only about a month before) and a new member of staff joined my team. She is about 4 years younger than me, and is now a very highly paid proffessional, where as i am a poorly paid civil servant) I really liked her but had always been told by managers that taught me how to do the job that "having relationships with staff was unacceptable". However she made it clear that she liked me and one thing led to another. I, however decided that i should follow more experienced managers advice, chose to not take this any further. The girl involved, about 3 months after, got together with my best friend. The girl left where i was working about this time. She and i became very close and she talked about how she regretted me not paying her more attention, and one more