How to Tell Her You Love Her

Telling her "I love you" is an important step in building intimacy in a relationship. There are different ways of going about it, but you should always make sure that you mean it before you say it to your girlfriend. Never say it just because you think it's what she wants to hear, say it only if you mean it.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Flowers
• Romantic Gifts

1. Think about when and where you want to tell her. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell her at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date.
2. Set the mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers or a romantic gift.
3. Look at her directly, take her hand and tell her how positive you feel about her. Give her examples of things you really like about her. Be sincere.
4. Tell her how you feel being with her, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with her.
5. Follow these positive statements with telling her you love her in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you."

Tips & Warnings

• Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for her possible response if you are not sure whether she feels the same way about you. For example: If you are hoping she will say "I love you" in return, what if she doesn't?
• Decide if you are ready to be that vulnerable and if you could handle whatever she may say.
• Go for it if you feel ready to take the risk. Love is risky!
• Be sober when you proclaim your love. If you have to drink to tell her how you feel, you are not ready.