How to Get the Courage to Start Talking to Your Crush

Speaking to your crush requires courage.

Approaching and starting a conversation with your crush takes courage. When you really like someone, the thought of speaking with him can create stress. To work up the nerve, prepare yourself. You'll feel more comfortable speaking with your crush if you've had some practice, know what to say and are on your own turf.

Instructions

1. Ask a friend to pretend to be your crush and practice starting a conversation. "Interpersonal Psychotherapy for Depressed Adolescents" recommends role-playing as an active way to build self-confidence through experimenting with new styles of communication.

2. Create a list of possible topics of conversation before you approach your crush. Having an idea of what you'll speak about will give you courage to start talking to your crush.

3. Choose an ideal location for approaching your crush, one in which you'll feel comfortable. Pick a time when neither you nor your crush will be in a rush. For example, if you know your crush spends a lot of time at a particular coffee shop, stop in and approach him there.

4. Groom yourself before speaking to your crush. If you take time with your clothing, grooming and hygeine, your self-confidence will increase.

5. Bring a friend with you when you finally approach your crush. It may boost your confidence if you don't have to carry the whole conversation on your own.

Tips & Warnings

• When you role-play, try different scenarios that may occur -- such as encountering an awkward silence, or having your crush bringing up a subject you know little about.

References

• "Interpersonal Psychotherapy for Depressed Adolescents"; Laura Mufson; 2004