- While the term "platonic relationship" has changed through time, today's platonic relationship refers to one in which two people are very close emotionally but not romantically involved. A platonic relationship generally refers to a friendship between members of the opposite sex, but this does not have to be the case. "Platonic" capitalized refers to "Platonism," defined as the "love of the idea of beauty." When most people talk about "platonic relationships," they are referring to "an intimate companionship...characterized by the absence of sexual involvement."
- The ideal of the "platonic relationship" began with the Greek philosopher Plato and his followers in the 4th century B.C. Platonic relationships were thought by Plato's followers to be a way to find wisdom, truth and beauty. Within the past two centuries, the term has lost its spiritual significance. Today's platonic relationship is a friendship between two people of the opposite sex that has no sensual element. For more about Plato and the "Platonic love" ideal, see Resources.
- Having a platonic friend benefits other relationships in your life. Such a friend offers a different perspective on careers, family and dating relationships. Getting the male or female perspective can help you see life in a new way. A platonic relationship is also beneficial in that a friend of the opposite sex will share interests that friends of the same sex may not. It might also be easier for a man to share his feelings with a platonic female friend than a male friend.
- Some people do not believe that men and women can truly have platonic relationships. The misconception here is that there will always be romantic tension between the friends or that one friend will want a physical relationship. However, many people find that platonic friendships enhance their lives without causing romantic tension. Romantic confusion can be avoided as long as both friends communicate honestly.
- There are two common risks in a platonic relationship. First, it is possible that one friend could develop romantic feelings toward his platonic friend. In this case, it is important that both friends are honest with one another to avoid future discomfort. The second risk is that a romantic partner will be jealous of the platonic friendship. The romantic partner may not understand the nature of the platonic friendship and the jealousy could ruin the romantic relationship.
