What Are Common Communication Challenges With a Marriage of Three Years?
Communication is the lifeline of a successful marriage, and the absence of proper communication between spouses can lead to breakups. After three years, a marriage may experience some major communication challenges, as partners no longer listen to each other, or are simply dishonest in their communication. Here are some of the communication issues that could arise in such a marriage.
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Misunderstanding of Non-verbal Cues
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Nonverbal communication constitutes a high percentage of any communication, and this certainly true in a marriage. A spouse may relay a nonverbal message that seems to contradict what he is saying. This happens when a spouse says what the other wants to hear while actually meaning the opposite. If you say something that you don't mean, your nonverbal cues may signal that you are not being sincere. The inability to understandi your partner's nonverbal cues may lead to a frustrated marriage. It is important to always observe your spouse to know if she means what she is saying.
Not Listening
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Listening is an important aspect of communication. It is frustrating in a marriage where you talk with your spouse, but he really never listens to you. After three years of marriage you may feel you know your spouse so well that you jump to quick conclusion during a conversation. This can prevent your spouse from voicing her true feelings. Giving your spouse your undivided attention lets him know that you are listening .It is frustrating enough when you are trying to discuss an important issue and your partner is busy fussing with the television remote control.
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Dishonesty with Your Feelings
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In marriage, when a conflict occurs, it is important that both partners share their genuine feelings. If a spouse is not honest about how they feel about the situation, it may lead to bottled up emotions that become a barrier to communication. Couples should cultivate a free environment where they can openly discuss feelings without fear of being judged or rejected. Honesty is vital to healthy communication in a marriage.
Lack of Personal Space
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Personal space is vital for every spouse. Sometimes couples may feel they are obligated to always be with each other, and though this can often be good, it can easily strain the relationship. As a person, you have needs that your spouse may not necessarily meet, and you may feel frustrated if you have expectations he can't meet. Marriage counselors suggest that you make it a point to spend some time away from your spouse with friends or family -- or alone.
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