What Is Customary for the Mother of the Groom to Wear?
Traditionally, since weddings are special occasions, family and friends arrive well dressed. Although most of the attention is, and should be, on the bride for this special occasion, the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom each play a significant role regarding wedding attire. Overall, both women should look their best. If you're the mother of the groom, follow a few etiquette rules before shopping.
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Customary
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Following tradition, dresses are usually worn by the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom. As the mother of the groom, though, allow the bride’s mother to select and buy her dress first. The dress she chooses usually sets the mood for what you'll wear. Remember that both of you should refrain from competing when selecting a dress. Also, ensure you're flexible in your choice of wedding attire, and be a good sport, especially if you're requested to wear a color, for example, that you're not happy with. Always keep in mind that it's the bride's special day.
Communication
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The mother of the bride should communicate with you on her chosen attire, usually through a phone call, which you should acknowledge by thanking the mother of your future daughter-in-law. The intention is common courtesy and talking directly lets you discuss the wedding attire together, to avoid contradictory colors, overdressing or not dressing up enough. In some cases, instead of direct communication with the bride's mother, your son might inform you of her dress decision. Cooperation is key to ensuring the proper wedding wardrobe is achieved for both of you. Know, too, that you might be given specific instructions on what to wear and what not to, as this is sometimes done as a way to coordinate and pre-plan after-the-ceremony pictures.
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Color Limitations
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Refrain from wearing white or ivory, because the wedding is the bride’s day to stand out. This "dress code" is customary and varies from bride to bride. Brides, though, sometimes break tradition or make exceptions to what's considered traditional concerning colors, so ensure you know exactly what's required of you. Also, don't wear all black, because it's a sign for mourning. Additionally, avoid vibrant, bright or flashy colors such as red. It's best, ideally, to talk, listen and respect the bride's request to determine her sensitivity to wedding colors. In many cases, hues of blue, silver or lavender work well.
Purchase Date
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Purchase your dress as soon as possible -- but after the mother of the bride selects and purchases her dress. If she doesn't notify you of what she's chosen, it's customary for you to consult with the bride for details. Not hearing from her mother might simply be because she doesn't realize she needs to contact you. In addition, an ideal time for you to purchase a dress is at least four months before the wedding. Avoid procrastination; take steps, by communicating for clarification, to ensure you purchase a dress at least one month before the ceremony.
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References
- "Professional Wedding Planning: How to Start a Wedding Planning Business"; Cho Philips; 2009
