How to Get a Guy to Marry You
For many men, taking that final step from being in a relationship to being a husband can be difficult. Many men take an "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" kind of approach to relationships. From the man's perspective: If he gets married, he is now legally bound to you; and if something goes wrong, it's no longer just a matter of breaking up. However, there a few things you can do to ease his worries and get him to pop the question.
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Getting a Guy to Marry You
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Give him his "guy" time. Ladies, we love you, but we don't always want to be with you. A man needs time apart to do his own things, like hanging out with his friends, playing video games or playing basketball with his buddies. Men don't necessarily need to do this every day, but if the occasion comes up, don't treat him badly or hold it against him. That just builds animosity, and over time it can end a relationship or keep him from popping the question.
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Lay off the pressure. Don't constantly remind the guy that you can't wait to get married or have kids. Your boyfriend knows you are ready for marriage and children, but he may not be. It's is fine to occasionally mention something or to bring up the subject, but don't overwhelm him with it, even if you have been dating a long time. If he really is "the one" and you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then you can nudge him but the decision is ultimately his.
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Keep it sexy. Many relationships begin to dull over time, especially when it comes to sex. You may have been going at it like bunnies at first, but after a while, unless you both learn to spice up your love life, it can slow or even stop altogether. If you want him to marry you, let him know that you are committed to keeping sex interesting. Be willing to try out fantasies and explore sexuality without breaking your moral compass. If he knows that sex will be mind-blowing after he gets married, you are more likely to get him to propose.
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Have your own life. While giving your man his guy time is important, you need to have your own time as well, away from the relationship. It can be very stressful to a guy if his girlfriend makes him the center of her world. If you don't do anything but sit at home and wait for him, then he will likely get creeped out that you have fixated your entire life on him. Guys like to know that you want and need them, but not all the time. This sort of fixation could be an impediment to marriage.
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Support his goals and ideas. Men are goal-oriented beings, and we will craft every harebrained idea we can to make money or improve our lives. If your man has a dream of opening up a business or going back to school, support him as best you can, as long as it doesn't hurt the relationship or create an undue financial hardship. If your husband wants to quit his six-figure job to be a professional rodeo clown, support him but suggest he try it out part-time on weekends first. A woman that supports her man is someone he wants by his side for the rest of his life.
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