The parents of the wedding couple are traditionally listed as hosts on a wedding invitation. But, if you're footing the bill for your own wedding, you don't need to list your parents as hosts. Couples can word a self-hosted wedding invitation by writing an event request followed by their names, the date and time of the wedding, and the wedding location.
Begin the invitation with a request for your guests to attend the wedding. You can use traditional wording such as "The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of" or "The pleasure of your company is requested at the wedding of." If you want something more familiar and less traditional, use a phrase like "Because you have shared in our lives, join us at the wedding of," or "Celebrate new beginnings and new love at the marriage of."
After a request line, write your names. Traditionally, the bride's name is listed first but either way is acceptable. It's formal to include middle names, but you can leave them out if you wish. There aren't specific etiquette rules for listing same-sex couples names, but you can list them alphabetically if you wish. You can use either "and" or "to" as the conjunction for the two names. For example, you could write "Jane Doe and John Smith" or "Jane Doe to John Smith."
Date and Year
Your guests need to know when to show up for the event. Traditionally, the line after the couples' names includes the day of the week, the day of the month, and the month of the event. For example, if your wedding is happening on Saturday, April 2, you would write "Saturday, the second of April" for the date. On the next line, write out the year of the wedding. For example, 2015 would be "two thousand fifteen."
Time and Location
On a new line, write the time the ceremony starts, noting the time of day. For example, if your wedding is at 4 p.m., write, "at four o'clock in the afternoon." Although you may include a directions card or map with the invitation, write the full address location on the line below the start time. Include the name of the venue, the street address, city, state and zip code. If you're hosting a reception after the ceremony, write "reception to follow" or "dinner and drinks to follow" depending on what you're hosting.
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