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Step 1
Choose a date in advance of the day of the wedding or commitment ceremony. Decide where to host it, such as at your house or the private room of a favorite restaurant. Settle on a theme, if you want to have one, and begin thinking about the menu.
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Step 2
Prepare the guest list with the help of the happy couple. Unlike traditional bridal showers that tend to be women only, plan a more modern "couple's shower" by inviting all of the couple's friends and families regardless of sex.
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Step 3
Encourage the engaged couple to register. In addition to the mainstream wedding registries at department and specialty stores, inform them about registering online with a network of gay-friendly vendors who will donate some of the proceeds to benefit the gay community, such as the Rainbow Wedding Network. See the Resources section for a link.
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Step 4
Purchase traditional invitations, or unique invitations featuring same-sex couples or variations on the rainbow theme, which are available on the Internet. Include registry information on the invitation. Send out invitations.
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Step 5
Prepare for any party games you want to include. Creating a bridal gown out of toilet paper can take on a tongue-in-cheek twist when performed on two brides, or better yet, two grooms. Adapt another common game--matching up the two names of famous historical or current couples--by heavily including famous gay couples.
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Step 6
Finalize the menu. Complete all of the shopping, decorating and cooking.
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Step 7
Enjoy the day of the shower. Ensure someone writes down a description of each gift the couple receives along with the name of the giver, to make it easier for the couple to write thank you notes later.
