What to Do When Your Boss Really Hates You?
A successful and rewarding career often depends on the atmosphere of the company for which you work. Having a happy and vibrant environment that includes cheerful coworkers and an easygoing boss can keep you working with a company for years. Yet when your boss or supervisor begins to treat you with disrespect, you can begin to hate your job and want to quit. But before you do, understand that options are available to make the situation better at your job.
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Self-Reflection
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People often may feel less than ecstatic over their relationships with their superiors, and as such, may begin to feel that their boss has it in for them. Before you do anything rash, look at the situation with an unbiased eye, as suggested by Randall S. Hansen, Ph.D., of Quintessential Careers. Look at your job performance and behavior; remember whether you have done or said anything inappropriate and whether you have been slacking off on the job. Any boss will likely find it harder to enjoy your company if you are making her job harder. If you come up with a good reason for the way your boss has recently been acting toward you, try doing a better job. Come in early, work harder and stop any inappropriate or lazy behavior. See if this change affects your boss's attitude toward you.
Meeting with Your Boss
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If you can't understand your boss' attitude, schedule a meeting with the boss, unless you believe such a meeting would only worsen the situation. Harry Levinson, Ph.D., of the Levinson Institute in Massachusetts, told Psychology Today that you should give your boss some ideas on the kinds of behaviors you desire him to use. Describe times you have seen him respond well to others as a supervisor, and praise him for it. Then point out specific behaviors that you can't understand. Try to stay calm and be ready for an emotional response from your boss.
Talk to Others
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Find someone in the company with whom you can talk about the problems, Hansen suggests. This person, preferably another supervisor, can give you tips about dealing with your boss. You may find that the person can find a position for you elsewhere in the company. You should also speak to other employees, says Levinson, to get the right take on the situation, and to build allies.
Report Your Boss
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When the boss' behavior remains the same, and it begins to affect your health and welfare at home, you can report him to human resources or his superior, Levinson suggests. Recall specific events and say you feel you cannot do your job effectively when your supervisor treats you badly. You may want to involve your mentor or allies at the company in this action to provide support in the report.
Consider Resignation
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Consider resigning your position after you have exhausted all your options and nothing has been solved, Hansen says. You do not want to sacrifice your health for a job that makes you feel terrible.
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