Learn How to Lap Dance

Performing a lap dance is more than executing certain moves. Confidence is the primary skill necessary to ensure a quality, sexy performance. If you don't feel sexy when engaging in the lap dance, it will show in your performance. Building up the confidence to create an effective routine is often as easy as practicing your moves until they become a series of obvious, fluid motions that your body wants to engage in.

Basic Overview

Lap dances are usually given to a partner who's sitting in a chair. The dancer starts a couple feet away in order to tantalize the recipient from a distance, slowing moving closer in a seductive manner. There are several common moves given in a typical lap dance performance, and those who are advanced enough will begin to learn other techniques, such as appropriate clothing and how to create the proper ambiance.

Common Dance Moves

Most lap dances begin with the dancer moving her hips in a circular motion. Feet are spaced apart and even with the hips, and the back is slightly arched. After a couple circles, you can slowly bend your knees and move as low as comfortable while continuing the tight circular motion of the hips (commonly called "grinding"). The common school of thought is that the lower you go, the sexier the dance is, but the attitude and aptitude of the grinding circle is really what makes this move an effective one.

Because lap dancing is accentuated by emphasizing your best physical assets, make sure to keep moving in order to show off your body. The goal is eventual physical contact, so move closer in a controlled, cat-like motion. Make sure to turn occasionally to show off different parts of your body, but keep that motion as a smooth and natural part of your dance to your partner.

Once you are very near your partner, it's time to start the second stage of the dance. Your partner should have open legs, or you can gently pry the legs apart and gracefully place yourself between them. Lower your derriere to their lap and again move closer to your partner in slow circles, making the contact consistently more intense. More flexible dancers may want to eventually turn to face their partners, and gracefully raise a leg to the arm of the chair (or arched over the partner's arm or shoulder). Continue to slowly "grind," leaning forward and making contact with your arms and chest.

Lap Dancing Tips

Adding ambiance can make it easier to remain confident and help you focus on being sexy. Keep in mind that lap dances are the ultimate tease in seduction. Have some fun when setting up your romantic rendezvous. Choose sexy music that is easy to dance to, and not too heavy or deep. The music should be as fun as your performance.

Additionally, if you want to add a control dimension into your routine, clarify a hands-off policy to keep your partner begging for more. Or take matters into your own hands with a pair of handcuffs or a blindfold that will up the tease factor.

Finally, use your clothing options to become a fantasy. Disrobing is a common part of a lap dance, so make sure you have enough pieces on to start off with and to keep the show tantalizing to the very end. A costume can be great in creating a character (which helps some people shed any nervous thoughts). Ultimately, being comfortable in what you are wearing (or not wearing) is more important than the clothing you eventually chose.

References

• AskMen.com Lap Dancing Guide
• Slinky Productions

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