- Tell your partner to wear something loose, comfortable and easy to remove. Make a simple massage oil from almond oil and herbs. Put the herbs in the oil and allow it to sit for a week. Strain out the herbs, and the oil is ready to use. On the evening of the massage, spread out blankets or pillows for your partner to lie on. Dim the lights, and play some soft music. Have your partner arrange himself on the blankets or pillows. Join hands, and take some deep breaths together. When you are both fully relaxed, smile at your partner and whisper, "Namaste," meaning "the divine in me recognizes the divine in you."
- According to Yabyummy.com, the idea behind tantric touch is that your partner experiences her sensual and sexual side through the concentration of kundalini, or sexual, energy.You gently touch, stroke and massage her, allowing the kundalini to ebb and flow. Again, intercourse and/or orgasm are not necessary. Touch your partner's skin as you would a soft fur rug. Run your fingers down her sides. Place your partner's hand against your chest so she can feel your heart beating as you stroke her arm. The best part about tantric massage is that there are no specific techniques for touching; the only rule is that your partner must enjoy everything you do.
- According to Yabyummy.com, staying in tune with your partner is important in tantric massage. You should be able to feel when his breathing changes, or hear a sigh or gasp. According to the Tantric Massage site, you should remind your partner to breathe deeply and normally when these things happen. These subtle signs tell you whether or not your partner is enjoying the experience. Dead silence can also be an indicator, and it is often a negative one. Remember, your goal is to keep your partner in tune with his kundalini. You can also move to genital massage if your partner permits it; this is an excellent way to raise kundalinic energy. You do, however, have to pay strict attention to the arousal level of your partner. Massage the genitals to raise energy, but slow down and/or stop to allow it to recede. This keeps your partner constantly aware of his sensual and sexual state.
