What to Say in a Sympathy Thank You Note

Sympathy thank-you notes are generally sent to people who helped with the service including pallbearers, clergy members, and anyone who did a reading. They are also sent to anyone who helped with the funeral services, prepared food, babysat, or did similar tasks. Also, anyone who sent flowers, donations, gifts or letters of sympathy should also receive a thank you note. Sending thank you notes can be difficult in times of joy, and in times of grief it can be twice as hard. But it doesn't need to be if you follow a few guidelines on what to say.

Thank You for Someone Else

Because of the situation, it is acceptable for a relative to write the thank you notes if the person is unable to do it for themselves. It is not even necessary to mention why the person is unable to write the note themselves. Instead, say something like, "On behalf of my mother, Jane Doe, I would like to thank you for the beautiful flower arrangement you sent. Your thoughtfulness is greatly appreciated by the entire family. Thank you. John Doe."

Mention the Gift

The best way to start any thank you is to mention the gift. This could include saying things like "We appreciated the flowers you sent," "Thank you for helping me prepare the food," or "I am grateful for the love and support you have given me."

Mention the Deceased

It is also appropriate to mention the deceased in the thank you. You can mention how much he or she would have enjoyed the gift or how much the gift giver meant to him or her.

General Appreciation

Mention how much the person's love, support, generosity, kindness, thoughtfulness or other aspect have meant to you at this difficult time. Other phrases that might be helpful include "Your kindness was a tremendous source of support," "I find it comforting to have you in my life at this difficult time," or "Your friendship is greatly appreciated."

Resources

• Thank You Notes After a Death You Can Copy
• Sample Sympathy Thank You Notes