- Your role as a matchmaker is to help someone discover what she wants in a romantic partner. Never tell her that she should date a certain person; discuss characteristics in a mate that would complement her personality, moral system and way of life. The best strategy is to talk about common characteristics, discuss why these are important and how they can strengthen a relationship. List these characteristics with examples of how she can identify them in a potential romantic partner. For example, ask how she can determine if a potential partner is generous or considerate. What actions would he need to take to prove these characteristics?
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No matter how much you think a person may be right for someone else, you cannot be sure about a potential love match until you have first talked to the other person and taken the time to find the common interests that he shares with the one you want to match him with.
Be honest and explain that you would like to introduce him to someone special. Talk to him about his hopes and fears about dating and relationships. Listen to each response carefully to better understand if he will be a good match for the other person. Finally, ask how he feels about blind dates. Make it clear that you intend to match him with someone and that you want to be certain he is okay with this idea. -
When giving matchmaking advice, use affirmative language. Remain positive throughout the process, and remember that your job is to keep the person focused on the goal. With the number of bad matches that will inevitably occur, keep the person hopeful and excited about meeting new potential matches.
The best approach is to talk about the process and how it is necessary. For example, you could talk about how much the person is learning about himself as he continues to date potential romantic partners. Focus his attention on how meeting the people who are not right for him is helping to move him closer to the one of his dreams.
