How Important Is Sex in a Relationship?

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"Adoption or marriage. How important is sex in a relationship? This is Dr. Paul. I want you to know that on my show Ask Doctor Paul and in my books, the last one being Boomer Girls, A Boomer Womens Guide to Men and Dating, this subject has been broached frequently. Often times people have a relationship and one party is more in tune with having more sex than the other party. It can often times lead to a horrible, horrible ending in that relationship. So, it's critically important if it's critically important to one or the other of the two parties. If it's critically important to both there's no problem. But, if one wants more and one wants less there's a problem and that issue is never, never, never going to go away because we don't change people we modify behavior. When I opened up by saying is it a marriage or is it an adoption, people often times don't marry each other, they adopt each other and they actually have marriages in which they have no sex. I have had frequent callers say exactly that. They may have it once a year, they may have had it never and that is not totally uncommon although it isn't fair. If both parties agree to it, that's fine. But, more often than not, both parties don't agree to it. So one of the other party is going to find an outlet for that, a resource for that. However subtly they may do it, it's going to happen. So the question is really up to the two people but it has to be compatible. If one person wants sex three times a week and the other wants it three times a day there is not going to be a meeting of the minds or anything else and it will fall apart. So, how important is sex in a relationship? It's critically important. It's so important that it has to be the bottom line discussion before you involve yourself with a relationship or worse, a marriage. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."