Use Humor to Strengthen A Marriage

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"Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco, Marriage Researcher and Writer. Today we're going to be talking about what's funny about marriage. Is there anything funny about marriage? Who knows, specifically we're going to be talking about how to use humor to strengthen your marriage. Humors are real key dimension in the attractiveness and the key dimension to a marital relationship. Many of the successful couples that I've interviewed have indicated that humor is either ninety one percent, extremely important or very important to their relationship. So by huge margin, using humor in a relationship, to keep love alive, to keep things fresh is very important, a very key fundamental first to understand. It's a very fundamental too, not only will help bond, it can be used to alleviate stress, keep sparks alive and make sure that you enjoy the company and the friendship that you develop and fostered. It's a good thermostat also because children can appreciate if their parents use self-deprecating humor, children can appreciate that their parents are individuals and human, so it helps humanize them and bond the family together. One of the things that you need to do, a couple needs to do is have that very common interest, that the thing that they do together, that bonds them especially and if they, if they have those times, they dedicate those times with, then a lot of humor will probably come out of it. As a matter of fact, there was one couple that I interviewed that was married for sixty five years. They were in their late 80's. The phone call came from the doctor about heart check up and the gentleman said, "what did you do to my heart this time"? So it's kind of funny. But, humor is very important in keeping, you know, the relationship alive, the spark and it creates a back, a great backdrop because, you know, rather than a solemn or a very serious relationship, humor keeps things light. Take a listen to Billy Joel song, "I'd rather laugh with the sinners and cry with the saints", and that's important in humor. Use humor in marriage to keep, keep that love alive, to keep that foundation growing because it is away to keep the friendship growing and the friendship is the key fundamental to having love and build upon that from there. And that's how we use humor to keep our love alive. I'm Joe Cuenco and that's how you can be married forever, marriedforever.com."