How to Ask Your Girlfriend's Father for Her Hand in Marriage

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. Today we're working in on relationship communication. Specifically, how do we ask our girlfriend's father for her hand in marriage? That is a very interesting question and basically, whoever is asking this question is somewhat of a traditionalist, and out of a person, and which is, which is a excellent thing to be, doesn't happen very often nowadays, but it's a very honorable way to approach the marriage and relationship. Basically, the first thing you need to do is take a self-inventory of what you are bringing to the table, bring to your girlfriend's, your fiancee's father and that family. So take, take a, an inventory of what you're bringing to the table; the skills and the dimensions that you bring. The first thing you need to do is call him up, set an appointment, talk with him at, preferably at his, at his location, some place that his comfortable in. Tell him that you've got some good news, something that you like to talk with him about and get his opinion on. First start the discussion about what strengths that you bring to the table and things, and talk about how positive your relationship has been with your daughter, how happy she has been and basically, that this is a relationship, that he should be proud of and happy of. Hopefully you've already sealed the deal with, with his daughter, she's already agreed to take your hand in marriage. But, if you haven't done that, then, you can do that very quickly. But the important thing is to stress in this dialogue that you are a person of character, your thinking long term, you're going to make his daughter, his baby very happy and that you're willing to step up to the table and make a commitment to do so. So effectively, what you're doing is, you're really working on your sales proposal and basically, all you want to do is get him to agree that, that you're a good person, you've got a lot of skills, you have a lot of resources to bring to the marriage and also, the fact that your, his daughter is very happy, so, it's just matter of, he's already agreed to all these things, it's just a matter of getting him to say "yes", you can have her hand. So, hopefully you already solidified the relationship with him and it's just a matter of building from there and building into a longer term, broader family unit. So these are the things that we should do to communicate to your girlfriend's father, asking for her hand in marriage. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources Relationships For Life."