How to Avoid Emotional Cheating

Video Transcript

"In the early west, card cheats used to get shot. That's a little bit abrupt, but emotional cheating may be like shooting yourself in the foot. This is Dr. Paul, author of "Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating." Emotional cheating is a very subtle thing because basically you're cheating yourself. And you're allowing that passion that was once there to drift away, it's going in a direction where you don't want it to go. And there's only one person who can keep that from happening and that is you, the person. Now bonding is critically important in any type of relationship. Bonding means having sex. Bonding means having it on a regular basis. A recent book was out, a woman wrote that she decided that she would give her husband for his birthday one year every day of sex, except if one or the other was ill. And it's a bestseller. The bottom line is very simple. It created a bond between them that they had not known before. So what's comfortable for you in bonding is far better than allowing your emotions to become less than where they were. The passion and intensity of that intimacy, of that feeling for another human being, that was there once, of course can be rekindled. The failure to do something like that is going to wind up in a very ugly financial and legal situation called a divorce so don't go there. Whether it's a relationship and you drift apart, whether it's an engagement and it's broken, a marriage, and it's a divorce, you don't want to allow emotional cheating to occur, and the best way to do that is to bond. Bond with your partner, that's what makes it happen. This is Dr. Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."