How to Be Strong for Her

Video Transcript

"HI. I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources. Today we're going to be talking about how we improve our relationship skills. Specifically, how to be strong for her. Just what do we mean by " How to be strong for her."? You can take it two ways. The physical aspect could be "How do you carry your wife or your partner upstairs to the bedroom?" or something like that - which may lead to that. But, it's really the emotional or the spiritual side. How do you become strong for an individual emotionally or spiritually? It's really kind of a character based thing for the husband or for the man. The man needs to be a person of inner strength, first of all. Before you can be strong for somebody else you have some inner confidence. You have to your head on straight. You need to have your thoughts aligned. You need to be a person of character. Another thing that's important is that you really need to empathetic to really understand the situation and understand what your wife, partner, or girlfriend is going through. Perhaps it's a situation where she's going through an illness. Perhaps she was laid off from her job, or going through some difficulties with her family. You need to understand the situation, provide a listening ear - that's the most important thing. Be empathetic so that you can appreciate what she's going through at that time. Be there to support her. Maybe help her out. Maybe there's tasks that you can help her out to take things off of her plate. Other things that you might be able to do would be be there physically for her. Maybe it's holding her hand, telling her that you do love her, you support her and that you would be there for her. These are all very important things. At times, you will need to demonstrate an in charge attitude. Meaning that basically you may have to take control of certain situations. Be prepared to do that. Remember, there's the physical aspects of things. There's emotional and spiritual side. You need to be a giving person. The hallmark of a strong man is somebody who has the ability to give and be empathetic. You need to appreciate what that person is going through. Once she has gone through that situation, it's a matter of going back to life hopefully as usual. Then you could work on building that relationship. You can trust that that relationship will be much stronger if you supported and provided the right level of support. That's how we can be strong for her. I'm Joe Cuenco, with End Resources- Relationships For Life."