How to Get Your Spouse to Trust You Again

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. Today we're going to be talking about healing relationships. Specifically, how do we get our spouse to trust you again. Well what is at the heart of getting our spouse to trust us again? Well at first we really need to understand what is at the root cause of the trust issue. Is it some behavior? Was it a breach of trust such as having an affair or is it lying or something else? Or, is your spouse hiding something? You know, that, that you're picking up on. So realistically, what is at the root of behavior. Is it unsatisfying sex or the physical issues or are there other things going on that's creating somewhat of a breach of trust or this breach of behavior. The first thing that really needs to happen is full communication fold and honest dialogue needs to take place about where you are. There has to be a full accounting of these behaviors. If you're spouse is coming clean and saying, " I did have an affair or I did lie about the situation", "I'm sorry", then there's an option for you to move on the relationship. But if somebody who is offended the other party in the relationship, that person has to ask for forgiveness. That person has to agree to make sure that those behaviors won't be engage in again. And they're maybe other patterns here, excessive drinking, drugs or some other addictions that need to, need to be dealt with that'll help that trust to be, to be build up upon again. So trust is a, according to successful couples, is a paramount issue in the relationship. As a matter of fact, trust is the first gate. Friendship, respect and all those other things are really sequential to trust. And so, if you don't have trust in relationship, it's difficult for anything else to follow in a strong long term manner. We have to recognize that some people just will not change behaviors or the sowing grain is going to be tough for them to change. And you may have to deal with these ongoing or make a decision that this relationship is not for you. There are other options, there, Family Resources offers workshops, there's marriage education, there's counseling to help folks work through trust issues and how to recover from situation that cause the problem. And that's how we get our spouse to trust us again. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources Relationships for Life."