How to Talk to Your Partner About Rekindling a Romance

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. Today we're going to be talking about our relationship skills, and building them. Specifically, how do we talk to our partner about rekindling a romance. Now, this is a very important thing that many couples go through. Basically, they fall in love, sometimes they kind of fall out of love, they fall out of alignment. So, how do we actually rekindle the romance that was once there? Well, it's important that we, we understand that the, the relationship fundamentals are there. Is there trust? Is there respect? Is there friendship? Is there communication there? And, we need to have those, really before we can begin to rekindle the romance and the love that was initially there. It probably is a good start to have a communication dialog and have a relationship inventory. Basically, when you sit down with your, with your partner, your wife, talk about what are good things that are happening in the relationship, and what are the good things that, that perhaps need improvement? What are some areas where you're not doing so well at? So, take this inventory, put together an action plan. How you will address that, perhaps it's, maybe you're working, the husband is working sixty hours a week. Perhaps the wife is playing too much tennis with her friends. Perhaps there's things where you're not actually spending enough time together, to solidify the relationship. So, so work on these issues, one by one. Come to an agreement, that you're going to abide by a plan, and actually work through these things, that will be ultimately important to you. The, an attitude and dependability is, is real key, is real key here, that you're going to follow through an exercise what you've agreed to. Once you get through these items that need to work through, then you can actually begin the healing process, the dating process, and then start from there to where you can start to rekindle the sparks. Then you do the special things for one another. Go out on, on special dates, do things that are exciting to one another. So, it's, it all part of a long term process. You need to make sure that you give more of yourself and then you'll be prepared to receive. Because you want, what you want is a cycle of giving and receiving that'll help re-kindle this process. Don't forget the little things, back rubs, holding hands, flowers, all those are important things, to show and demonstrate that you are special to one another. So, that's how we talk to our partner about re-kindling a romance. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources, relationships for life."