How to Recognize a Verbally Abusive Man

Video Transcript

"Ever played that child's game sticks and stones may hurt my bones but words will never phase me? Yes they will. How do you identify a verbally abusive man? This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and relationship consultant. It starts usually very basically and somewhat embarrassingly. And I've heard it all before. It starts with criticizing a waitress. Criticizing a salesperson. Giving short shrifts to someone who happens to be a service person. It builds from there, they're not there yet with you, they are not quite at the point where they're going to start on you but it's coming. It's coming, and when it does, you will recognize it because you will receive the full front of that person who is being abusive, and it will happen over and over and over. It won't stop. It will happen to you and your friends and whoever else may be in that person's proximity. That's the type of person that you do not want to involve yourself with under any circumstances. Look for the signs upfront. When you're dating this person, when you're seeing this person. This person is in a group of other people, how abusive is this person verbally to others because your turn is going to be there. Your time is coming. Okay. Keep that in mind. Those are signals that you need to be aware of, when you see it, dump him, like a bad habit. This is Doctor Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."