How to Help Your Child Understand Divorce

Video Transcript

"Mommy and daddy are always mommy and daddy and they're believable. How to help your child understand divorce. This is Dr. Paul author of Boomer girls, a boomer woman's guide to men and dating and host of ask Dr. Paul. Look it's really imperative that you help your child understand divorce. And don't try to do it alone. The key to this is typically to get professional guidance and professional help. Prior to that time you might want to introduce that concept to your children by asking them, especially if they're of school age, if they know any children who also live with only their daddies or only their mommies or they only see their mommies on the weekend or they only see their daddies on the weekend. And typically the child will say yes. And so then you expand from that and say how would you feel if you were in that situation. Well I wouldn't like it. Well that's understandable and then you go from there. Be sensitive to that child's feelings and seek professional help. They probably have a pretty good idea of what's going on, kids are very, very in tune with that. They watch that family element very carefully and if that family is dysfunctional already they know where you are going with the conversation. Again I think it's imperative and fair only to you and the child to get professional help. This is Dr. Paul may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."