How to Avoid Getting a Divorce

Video Transcript

"Listen to Doctor Paul, don't make that call, to the lawyer, that is. How to avoid getting a divorce. This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girls, A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating, and host of Ask Doctor Paul. If you don't make that call in the first place, you probably won't get divorced in the second place. So that's how to avoid getting divorced. Now, after you have listened to that and not made that call, the next step you want to take is to sit down, one on one, heart to heart, with your spouse and say, "Look, okay, you know we are in the process of having a very traumatic end to this marriage, and I think we need to do something in order to try to salvage that marriage. I mean if we loved each other once, we can certainly love each other again." I think it's possible. Even if there's something so significant as cheating involved, and I frankly will tell ya, I don't see a cure for that. I know many people say, "Oh yeah, that can be worked on. Blah..blah..blah." Well, I don't believe it. Okay, that's how I feel about it. If there are other issues involved, go to see a marriage counselor. Even if you have had that cheating experience, still see the marriage counselor. All right? Sometimes what they will tell you is this, "If the man cheated, and he had a call girl, well, there was no love involved. It was empty sex, so, you know, maybe he's not having enough sexual interest at home, and therefore he did this." I mean, you can rationalize anything. Personally I don't believe it, but then, that's how I feel about it. But, if you can rationalize it and live with it and make it up, fine. On the other hand, if it happens to be an emotional relationship with the man with another woman, that's an entirely different story. And that's not going to wash as well. So, the first step is to call the marriage counselor. Make an appointment, and go through all the steps they ask you to go through. That's number one in that method of not getting that divorce. This is Doctor Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."