Getting Help With Divorce

Video Transcript

"Don't let anyone should on you and don't should on yourself. Getting help with divorce. This is Dr. Paul author of Boomer girls, a boomer woman's guide to men and dating and host of ask Dr. Paul. The unfortunate thing about getting help with divorce is that there are far too many people out there who want to help you and they are no help at all. And the first thing you hear is you should do this, and you should do that, and don't let anyone should on you. Ok. And don't should on yourself. I should do this and I should do that, forget about it. You get help in that category when you're involved with a divorce by going to people who are professional people. Your family is not going to help you. Please believe that. Mom means well, dad means well, sister means well, brother means well and you'll probably going to go to them and they are going to say well you should do this, and you should have done that and etcetera, etcetera. Don't go there, listen to your lawyer, go to counseling if you need to, if you have a religious person that you contact for help, then you might want to talk to them but don't let them should on you either. And the last thing you want to do is tell yourself is I should do this and I should do that, I should not get a divorce whatever it may be. Get off that train because that train goes to one city, and that's the city of guilt. And you don't want to go there. Trust me on that one. Get real with yourself, get healthy with yourself and don't look at those that may put you on that guilt trip to help you, they won't. This is Dr. Paul may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."