How to Comfort Your Wife

Video Transcript

"Hello my name is Reka Morvay. I am a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you about how to comfort your wife. In a marriage situation in any long term committed relationship it is very important for the two people to be able to provide comfort and support for each other. Knowing how to comfort and support your spouse is therefore very important in dealing with the everyday difficulties. The first thing is that you should know what brings comfort to your wife. I think this is a very important question because everybody is different and everybody finds comfort in different things. Does your wife enjoy receiving physical comfort, hugs? Does your wife enjoy receiving compliments and encouragement verbally? Does she like problem solving? Is she looking to solve her problems? It is very important to know exactly what it is that your spouse is looking for when you are trying to comfort them. Also it is very important when your wife is upset to take a step back, remain calm, find out why she is upset, find out what you can do in this situation and to not assume that it is your fault so remain calm and don't assume that she is upset because she is upset with you, she may just be upset with a situation. It is also very important when you do figure out what has caused discomfort for your wife to not push your support on her but respect her, respect her wishes and try to find out what kind of support she needs and comfort her accordingly."