Is Arguing Good?

Video Transcript

"Hello, my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist, and I'm going to talk to you today, about whether arguing is good for a relationship. We all have different opinions, and when we talk about these different opinions, sometimes we argue. The question is, How do these arguments happen, and what are their results? Are these arguments in a respectful, conversational tone of voice, just disagreements between two adults, or are they screaming matches, between two people, who are both trying to make their opinion supreme, over the other person's opinion? If it's the former, then I think this is a very constructive part of exchanging views, in a relationship. If it's the latter, then I think you need to take a look at the respect factor, in the relationship, and how to have disagreements in a respectful way. One good indicator, whether or not arguing is good for your particular relationship, is to see how you feel after an argument. Do you feel good, that you had another chance to exchange information, with somebody that you love, and whose opinion you trust, and you value? or do you feel horrible, and do you feel down, that you had yet another argument that was fruitless, and had absolutely no positive outcome? If you feel good about your arguments, then it's probably a constructive, good part of your relationship. If you always feel bad after arguing, then you need to take a look at how these arguments happen."