How to Deal With the Aftermath of Infidelity

Video Transcript

"Hello, my name is Reka Morvay, and I'm a psychologist. I'm going to talk to you today about coping with the aftermath of infidelity in your relationship. One of the consequences of infidelity is a is a lack of trust, a loss of trust. This is almost inevitable that it will happen, and you will have to work very hard to regain trust in your relationship again. You need to sit down with your partner and discuss what it is that you need in order to be able to feel safe and trusting in that relationship again. Do you need your partner to be more forthcoming about where they go, and when they are coming home? Do you need them to be more open about their everyday life, and what they did during the day? Do you need them to make promises? Do you need to be able to check up on those promises? What is it that you need from your partner in order to be able to regain that trust? Another common consequence of infidelity is a loss of romance in the relationship. It is very, very difficult to feel romantic towards somebody in whom you have lost your trust, so rebuilding trust is really the first step, and rebuilding the romance is the second step. You will have to work hard at both. In order to rebuild romance you need to be able to take time out, focus on your partner, and do things together the way that you used to when the relationship was in its best phase."