How to Stop Pushing People Away

Video Transcript

"Push me, pull me toys are just that, toys. How to stop pushing people away. This is Dr. Paul, author of "Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating" and host of "Ask. Dr. Paul". How to stop people away often times says more about you than it does about them. You are setting up a barrier often times with yourself. What you're saying is I really don't want people to be close to me and then subconsciously you are pushing them away. This is really a matter of self acceptance. If you accept yourself for what you are and allow people to relate to you then they will not feel as if they are being pushed away. It's perception and the perception starts from within you because that is what you want to do. People don't necessarily want to push people away but what they do want to do is hide themselves. Often times other people want to get to much in your business. That's another story. But if you feel that you are pushing people away then a time for self analysis is now. Why do people feel they are being pushed away from me? Do I really want those people to be around me? Maybe the answer is no. Maybe these are people you really don't want to be around you. Maybe you have found yourself. Maybe it's not about you at all. Maybe it's about the other people. Maybe they are people that you don't feel that you are pushing away and maybe those are the people that you really want to have in your life and be surrounded by. This is Dr. Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."