How to Stop Being Controlling

Video Transcript

"Are you on automatic pilot? How to stop being controlling. This is Dr. Paul, author of "Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating" and host of "Ask Dr. Paul". How to stop being anything may not be in your physical nature, that may be the nature of what you are. Alright there is a point in time that maybe if you are too controlling with your kids or if you are with a person who feels you are controlling them, maybe you are and maybe you aren't. Maybe that's what they think and maybe that's the type of person you are and guess what? There are people out there who like to be with someone who is controlling because they don't want control. So when you say to yourself how do I stop being controlling are you saying to yourself how do I change myself? Because you won't, you are what you are. Now if the control gets to a point where it becomes psychotic, that's a whole different story, then you need professional help. But if it is a controlling thing where certain things need to be done a certain way and the other person you are involved with whether it be a man or a woman agrees to that, there is no problem, the only problem occurs when you start having a conflict over that issue regardless of what it may be including controlling. How do you stop being controlling? In a way you simply let nature take its course. Absolutely let things go. Don't become overzealous about maybe things that you would like to see happen another way. I know it's easier said than done. Keep it within a mid range, that's one way to control if you want that factor of not being controlling. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."