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How to Not Be an Obsessive Girlfriend

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Summary: Being obsessive changes from person to person, as one man's idea of obsessive may be another man's idea of a woman who makes him feel secure. Avoid being an obsessive girlfriend by finding out what a boyfriend really likes with tips from the author of several dating books in this free video on relationship advice.

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By Dr. Paul Vehorn
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Dr. Paul Vehorn has a Ph.D and did graduate work in behavior psychology. He has also been a nationwide talk show host on the Sun Radio Network. Dr. Vehorn wrote "Dynamic Dating" and...read more

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"Can you hear me now? Can you hear me now? Can you hear me now? Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet? How to not be an obsessive girlfriend. This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls! A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men & Dating, and host of Ask Dr. Paul. Well, I'm not so certain that obsessive is bad. I think that it depends on the person that you're obsessing to or with. If you're a woman who is obsessive, and that happens; it's not all bad, and I feel that if your significant other has an issue with it then it becomes an issue. Oftentimes, it makes another person feel secure. Okay, she's called you several times today; fine. That may make him feel good, and you know that men; better than anyone else. That may be what he needs, so I'm not certain that being obsessive with one man in one regard is the same as being obsessive with another. One may think it's terrific; hey, she really cares about me. Maybe he needs some bolstering and and that's a good thing. On the other hand, someone else may say hey, don't be so close, don't be so close. So, it it's a matter of definition. Obsessiveness is by definition who you are with and how they react to it. Oftentimes, as I said, many people like that feeling that they're wanted and needed, and only you can determine that as the woman, in terms of what that man that you're in love with really likes, okay? So, think of, in terms of his needs, and of course, if you're that way yourself then you have a need to be that way. So, I don't condemn that type of thing. I'm not saying that that's a bad thing, and I, of course never make moral or value judgments. So, this is kind of a value judgment. I think it depends on how that person reacts. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."

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