How to Handle Rejection

Video Transcript

"Have you ever heard that for every no you're that much closer to a yes? How to handle rejection. This is Doctor Paul, author of Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Doctor Paul. It's true, for every no you get, you're that much closer to a yes. And if a door closes, another door is going to open. I mean rejection oftentimes can be a situation that you have virtually no control over. You may remind that woman of a man that she was once married to. On the negative side or she may remind you of a woman that you were once married to on the negative side. So you are going to reject her, no, you are rejecting what you carry around with you as baggage. And she is going to reject you, no she's not rejecting you, she's rejecting an image of what she carried before. Again, the baggage. So I ask you this. To handle rejection go to the point of saying what is being rejected? Am I being rejected or is something being rejected that I have no control over. And maybe you are being rejected. Maybe you were being annoying. Man or woman. People don't like to be annoyed, and unfortunately I had a woman call recently and say this man has been annoying me at work, and I told him I'm not interested, go away, and yet he still annoys me. Well, then you're kind of crossing a line at that point, it's going beyond rejection, the person's rejecting you, understand, but there's something else involved here. You're starting to cross that line to harassment, okay, so if you get rejection, take it and go on. Move on. Don't try to make something out of something that's not going to happen. This is Doctor Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."