How to Love Yourself

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"To thine own self be true, it has been said. So, how to love yourself. This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Dr. Paul. You cannot love others unless you love yourself. And how do you love yourself. Be you man or woman, let's start from the foundation. Oftentimes when we were children, we were put down for a variety of reasons, either through a religious conviction; we're guilty about this, we're guilty about that. It has nothing to do with self. So remove self from that. When you get to the point in your life where you're an adult, and you look at yourself and you say, "How do I love myself?" This may sound almost arrogant. It may sound egotistical. But it works. And we know it works, through various studies. What you do is you walk up to a mirror, and I mean like a ceiling to floor mirror, and you look at it and you at yourself, be you man or woman, and you look right at yourself and say, "Dr. Paul, you're the greatest. Dr. Paul, you're the greatest. Dr. Paul, you're the greatest". Three times. Look in that mirror, and you can kiss the mirror. Now I know that may sound really off-the-wall to you, but we know that it works. It establishes your feeling of self-worth for you, because you're telling yourself. Oftentimes, self-hypnosis is a matter of telling yourself. And if you can do that, you will convince you because that's the "you" inside. That's that spirit within, that you have worth. And that's what it's all about. And at this point in your life, whatever point it may be, and you're an adult; you need to do that. If you have not already established that peace within yourself of that, then there is a technique to use to make it happen. All right? This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realties of tomorrow."