How to Love Again

Video Transcript

"In Shakespeare's play Othello, he did not learn how to love again. And it was a tragedy. How do you learn to love again? This is Dr. Paul author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Dr. Paul. This is a very, very difficult thing to do. Especially if you have been hurt. And I've heard many people say "look, I don't want to go there again. I'm finally disappointed for the last time." And even worse, you know, if you never expect anything, you're never disappointed. Which means I'm not going there again. I'm not going to get married again. I'm not going to have a relationship again. I'm out of it. I'll go have fun, that's it. And many people are there. Alright. If you want to not be there, then the bottom line is opening up your heart and having a trust for another human being. But don't do it lightly. Check it out. It's a very, very painful and hurtful thing to have experienced that type of trauma. And you need to open up, but you have to open up with caution. I know that everyone wants to love and be loved. And how to love again is to bring out you, itself that has to be involved in this. Just because you had a bad experience with that last person, does not mean you're going to have a bad experience with the next, unless you pattern yourself to go after the same type of person. Which unfortunately, often times people do. A subject for another time. But keep that in mind as well. So trust is the basis. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."