How to Fall in Love & Stay in Love

Video Transcript

"Memories create the reality so how do you fall in love and stay in love? This is Dr. Paul author of "Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating" and host of Ask Dr. Paul. This is a very serious question and I get asked frequently on the air what do I do to maintain this love? How first of all, do I fall in love? When you're with a person that you really are attracted to, you sit there first and you communicate with them. A two way street. You don't do all the talking, you don't do all the listening. That's the first step in creating that memory ok? That's how you start to fall in love, it's called communicating. Even animals communicate. So understand that's step one. As time progresses to stay in love you do things that create the memory. The memory creates the reality and the reality then makes it last. So that's how you stay in love. Because you can refer back to those really outstanding instances that you spent together. Those moments there that were precious to you. You can take pictures, you can do all kinds of things and you know, Wow remember when and that's. Even if it was last week or two months ago, or three months ago and it will be that way for years and years. Do you recall when we went to Yosemite? Recall we went on that cruise? And they don't have to be big things, just remember that time we went fishing and you lost all your line. The little things like that. Recalling that memory creates the reality and that is how to fall in love and stay in love. This is Dr. Paul, may your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."