How to Know If a Boyfriend Will Be Abusive

Video Transcript

"We're going to be talking about relationships today and relationship fortune telling. Actually, we're going to be talking about how to predict if your boyfriend is going to be abusive. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. And what actually is the best way to understand if your boyfriend is going to be abusive? It's really tough to predict, but it's a situation that you really want to try and distant yourself from. Typically patterns of behavior will be be exemplified in their family, his family, his friends and basically his character. Does he give in to excesses? Does he use drugs? Does he use alcohol? Does he have a temper? Does he have the tendency to fly off the handle? These are all indicators that there's some real deep-rooted, problematic behavior, that's going to be tough for you to deal with. And realistically, the question is, why would you want to deal with this behavior? Because, if that exist, if that actually exists, then this individual is going to need some professional behavioral. You can't predict if a person is going to be abusive, you can look at patterns, but you don't ever want to subject yourself to that. Make that clear up front. If he flies off the handle, just make it clear, anger and abuse is not in your workbook, it's not acceptable and it's not going to happen. If it does happen, leave. Even if it happens, even just once. Because these patterns of abuse are deep-rooted, and individuals who engage in that behavior need professional help. You don't need to subject yourself to that because chances are, it will be repetitive and that's the last thing you want to be involve in. So again, it's tough to predict if your boyfriend is going to be abusive, but there are signs, ask questions, have a conversation and if anything ever happens, run, avoid that abuse. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources Relationships For Life."