How to Get Over a Breakup

Video Transcript

"We're talking today about relationships and moving on; in particular, how to get over a breakup. Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources. Just what is the best way to get over a breakup? You really need to deal with two issues, your pride and a void in your life. The void from being with somebody, and what you've got with that individuals. You really need to take an inventory of who you are as an individual, your strengths, your weaknesses, because there may be some things that you really are missing in your character, your personality, or your life that really contributed to the break-up or the, to the demise of the relationship. And once you are comfortable with yourself as an individual, and make sure that you've got all those voids com covered then you're in a much better position to reengage and find somebody else, so the inventory is is important. Dealing with a void in in time is another thing. I would suggest that you spend time with friends, family, other relationships that will be supportive of you and kind of help you get through some of the time that you used to spend with your particular significant other. Grieving is important, but at a certain point in time it's time to move on. You know, realistically; it's time to for you to assess who you are, get through this void, get through this challenge, and then move on, rebuild yourself as an individual who's ready to contribute to another relationship. I would suggest that you join clubs, associations, sports teams. Get out, network, get yourself out there, volunteer in the community. Contribute; make yourself feel better. And therefore, if you feel better about yourself, then you're going to be in a much more positive position and role to engage somebody else in a friendship and also a relationship; otherwise, that next step won't happen soon. So, be positive, you know, look at where you have some weaknesses, build from there, and also be happy with yourself. And that's the way to deal with a break-up. I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources, Relationships for Life."