How to Avoid Manipulative Behavior During a Breakup

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"We'll be working on our relationship skills today and we're going to be talking about How To Avoid Manipulative Behavior During A Breakup. Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco, I'm with Family Resources. With just how do you avoid manipulative behavior during a breakup? Well, we can all agree that manipulative behavior, controlling behavior is bad behavior, and that's what we really want to avoid. And there's probably a tendency for somebody whose been wronged, perhaps to engage in that behavior, so it's important that you talk about things, that you start to build on a relationship of friendship and trust and communication. The party that has been the, let's say the insulting party, the party that engage in wrong behavior, bad behavior, that cause the breakup, needs to really be apologetic. Apologize, show sorrow, show that you've, that you're sorry for either breaking that bridge and trust or that you're really sorrow for whatever you've done to cause a behavior either that incident or overtime. The objective is to be diplomatic. What you want to do is become friends. Stay friends. You don't want to burn bridges. The world is becoming smaller and smaller and the chances are, you may run into that individual again and you may see that person. You may need that person, who knows. So many couples have reunited. I personally know three or four couples who's actually divorced and remarried or people who've gotten back together again. So it's important to understand, keep the bad behavior or whatever caused the breakup aside and think about the person 'cause, so kind of separate the behavior and try to avoid bad behavior or manipulation, because games are childish. It's not to say that adults can't engage in childish behavior because they do. But, realistically what you want to do is, is have behavior that's above board. And you want your friends and her friends to speak well about you, even in the face of a breakup. You really want to avoid manipulative behavior because it's destructive. You want to make a relationship, even a friendship last. I'm Joe Cuenco for Family Resources Relationships and Friendships for Life."