How to Recover From a Breakup

Video Transcript

"Hi. My name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist, and I'm going to talk to you today about how to recover from a break up. Breaking up is a very painful experience, whether or not you initiated the break up itself. You will find that the structure of your life has probably changed, and you're missing a person from your life who, for better or for worse, was part of your life until now. So, don't rush yourself. Give yourself enough time to recover emotionally from a break up. It is very important to be able to process the experience. You probably have some baggage and some very painful experiences. So it is important to allow yourself to express these difficulties and to express the pain and to allow yourself to mourn for a relationship that is over. So take the time to talk to your friends, your family, perhaps even a counselor, or to write down your thoughts about the break up and what you have learned from it. These are all tools that you can use to deal with the emotions that come up and to process the events that have happened. Now, another important step to recovering from a break up is to keep yourself busy. Don't make life stop. Don't end all your activities with your friends. Don't stop going to work. Make sure that, as much as possible, you keep to your regular routine that you had before the break up. It is also a time that you can probably use to start doing something new, to treat this as an opportunity that you now have time to do things that you didn't have time to do before. So take up a new hobby, finish some of the tasks or chores around the house that you didn't have time to do before, connect with old friends, take up a book, watch movies that you never saw. So try to keep yourself busy. And try to keep your life flowing as it was flowing before. So the two main steps in order to overcome or to recover from this painful experience is: 1. to process it, to give yourself the chance to deal with these emotions, but on the other hand, to not let it take over your life."