How to Deal With Emotional Affairs

Video Transcript

"Hi, my name is Reka Morvay, I'm a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you about how to deal with emotional affairs. Finding out that your partner is interested in somebody else, even if it's just emotionally, can be a very shocking and very difficult experience to go through. The first thing you need to do is examine your relationship and ask why you or your partner might be interested in somebody else. Even if it's only emotionally. Is it something about your own life that you're unhappy with. Or your partner's life that they are unhappy with. Or is it something about the relationship that's not quite right. Is it important to pinpoint the source because only if you find the source can you actually try to remedy the problem that led to the emotional infidelity. Maybe emotional infidelity is a natural outcome of being unhappy with something in your relationship. In this case, try to treat it as a symptom. And try to go to the root of the problem. And fix the problem in the relationship that led to this situation. Look at your life and see if there's something about your work situation or your family or your friends or your own personal fulfillment that is making you or your partner go out and try to seek excitement and fulfillment in another emotional relationship. Then look at your relationship. Try to tally your needs and what you need in a serious relationship. And see if those needs are being met. Then sit down with your partner and try to figure out a way that would make you both happy and get both of your needs met so you don't need to go outside the relationship to try to find that kind of emotional fulfillment."