Understanding Infidelity

Video Transcript

"Hi, my name is Reka Marvay, I'm a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you today about understanding infidelity. If you find that infidelity has become a problem in your relationship then you can use this as a sign that there's probably some sort of problem in your relationship that you need to address. Infidelity is almost always, always a sign there are some underlying difficulties going on in your primary relationship. Maybe these are problems that you have been unwilling to discuss or maybe you haven't wanted to acknowledge that you have problems in your primary relationship. But treat this as a sign that it is time to take some time out and think about where your current relationship stands. Think about your life and what you may be unhappy about that's driving you to seek another relationship outside your primary relationship. It is not just the act of adultery that is most damaging to the relationship but also the secrecy that surrounds this act. Secrecy, lying to your partner, hiding from your partner what you are doing can undermine an otherwise healthy relationship. So try to treat infidelity as a signal that there's something worth paying attention to in your relationship and you can use it as a jumping board. You can use it as the motivation to try to fix the problems in your relationship and to go on to have a much healthier relationship in the future."