Why Do Relationships Fail?

Video Transcript

"Hi my name is Reka Morvay, I'm a Psychologist, and I'm going to talk to you today about why relationships fail. There can be many reasons why relationships fail, and there really isn't a stock answer to this question. However, some of the most common problems are growing apart, perhaps a lack of enthusiasm, passion dwindles, you can not keep up the romantic interest you used to have in each other, communication problems, constantly misunderstanding each other, having negative reactions to what the other person says, being unable to face the reality of living together everyday or perhaps an inability to deal with anger. This can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship if you come home angry and you pass on your anger by, you know, figuratively kicking the dog, this is a not the sign of a healthy relationship. Management mania may be another sign, so if one of you is an extremely organized and very precise and pedantic person, coupled with somebody who is extremely untidy and unkempt, you know this may be a recipe for disaster. So personal incompatibility issues also play a large role. Different life stages, maybe you've grown apart in what you want to do, or where you want to go with your life. So it is always important to look at individual, individual features in, in what drives a couple apart. Constantly putting pressure on the other person to change or to do things differently is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Responding inappropriately by excessive anger or sarcasm or by silence, giving the other person the silent treatment, these are all marks of an unhealthy relationship."