Signs of Manipulation

Video Transcript

"Hi, my name is Reka Morvay, I'm a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you today about signs of manipulation. If you feel that somebody is manipulating you, then probably you have a very good, deep, down gut feeling that you are being used and manipulated for purposes that do not serve your best interests. Now the definition of manipulation is if somebody tries to control or coerce you to do something that you don't feel good about doing yourself. What are these signs? For example, if your partner if the other person does not respect your boundaries, does not respect your limits, if they try to use emotional reasons. So for example, if they try to make you feel guilty about saying no. If they try to use your affection to force you to do something that is against your ethics or against your morals. If he bullies you, so if he uses threats to coerce you into doing something you don't want to do, if he offers to bribe you say, I'll give you a new dress if you come to me, come with me on this date, that's a clear sign of manipulation. If he makes you feel guilty about saying no to something, that is a clear sign of manipulation. The bottom line is it's easy to see manipulation when you are not in love with a person. So perhaps an outside perspective will help you decide and figure out whether you are being manipulated. Ask a friend whose judgment you trust or ask a family member that you respect to give you their opinion about the situation."