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Summary: Support someone who has had a miscarriage or stillbirth by being patient and loving. Learn more about how to support someone who has had a miscarriage or stillbirth with expert tips from a psychologist in this free video about family counseling.
Dr. F. Felicia Ferrara has 25 years of experience in psychology with a specialization in childcare and adolescent adjustment. Dr. Ferrara maintains a private practice in Tampa and...read more
"Hello. Have you ever wondered how to help someone who's had a stillbirth or a miscarriage? Well if so, I'm Dr. Felicia, and I'd like to give you a few tips on how to handle that. A difference occurs, because with a miscarriage many people can't see the fact that the person was pregnant. Maybe you're 2 or 3 months pregnant when that happens, or 4 months, but you're not showing too much. So people kind of take that as less of a pregnancy, than if you had delivered a stillbirth child, you actually went through the entire 9 months or so, and the child is delivered deceased. And people usually understand that to be more of a mourning process. The truth is, is they're both equally a mourning process, because the person who was carrying that child, even in a miscarriage, realizes that it's the death of that child, of the fetus. What you want to do is follow their lead. Very often, if they're crying a lot, it's going to be more difficult to console them. If they are stronger themselves, and a little bit more resilient, maybe succumb to it. You can expect a process of depression, because it is a grieving period. But your job as a friend or family member, is to be there and be supportive. And just let them know that whatever they need, you're willing to help them through it. Be supportive, give them the time to process the grief. But also know that it is a very difficult problem to get over with, and it is an emotional change for them. So be patient, be supportive, and be encouraging. Thank you. This is Dr. Felicia saying, good bye for now."
eHow Article: How to Support Someone Who Has Had a Miscarriage or Stillbirth