How to Make a Marriage Work

Video Transcript

"I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources. Today, we're going to be talking about mechanics of a long term relationship, specifically, how to make a marriage work. This requires a joint effort and commitment, and of course the most important things are, do you have the right fundamentals? Is there love? Is there trust? Is their friendship? Is there communication? And is there mutual respect? Because if you don't have these things, that's really the tenets that have to be worked on. It's going to require communication, to really understand, what it takes to make each other happy. A dialog needs to take place, and kind of evaluate where you are. Specifically, it requires developing a plan to know what it takes to make either the husband or the wife, happy. Realistically, you need to understand, are you doing the little things for each other? And also in terms of the big things. It's always nice to have surprises, to be catered to, maybe getting coffee in the morning, maybe getting a martini at the door, when you come home from work. Also little surprises, the text messages, which make sure that you are thinking about one another, that there is love there, that is being cultivated, and also cultivating the friendship. The other thing that's important, is do you have mutual fun? Do you do things together, that build not only the friendship, but also the fun in the relationship, and continue to build the overall love in marriage? Dr. John Gray gives some good advice here. He's written many books on the subject. There are many marriage education workshops, that are available. Many books to help couples understand, what it takes to build a successful relationship, but it requires communication first of all, and making sure that you understand, what each other wants, and then working on that, to make each other happy. Just remember that in order to give, you have to receive first, but it's a great thing to be doing, and creating that cycle, and that's how we make a marriage work. I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources, Relationships For Life."