How to Attract People

Series Summary

In the contexts of sociology and popular culture, the concept of interpersonal relationships involves social associations, connections or affiliations between two or more people. Such persons may interact overtly, covertly, face-to-face or may remain effectively unknown to each other, as in a virtual community whose members maintain anonymity and do not socialize outside of a chat room. The discovery or establishment of common ground between people provides a fundamental component for enduring interpersonal relationships. In this free video series on relationships, the author of a book on marriage gives advice on building good relationships with people. Learn how to be a good person, how to repair broken friendships and how to attract people. Get information on how to tell if you are being manipulated or if people are lying to you. Find out how to move on after domestic violence and how to be a good friend, all in this free video series.

Video Transcript

"I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources. Today, we're going to be talking about persons you want to avoid being, versus those you want to emulate, specifically, how to attract people. The question here is really, how to become a likable individual? What are the characteristics that make an individual appealing to others, and more importantly, to the opposite sex? Well, people generally want to be around people who are good, kind, caring, decent individuals, and those who actually are honestly interested, in other individuals. People who are friends, make eye contact, are interested in what you have to say, and listen to you, interested in your well being. People will stray away from those who are boorish, braggarts, people who are interested only in themselves. People actually, who generally take from relationships, take advantage of other people, basically are a negative influence, so you really want to stray away from these type of people, or these types of characteristics. On the other hand, people who are generally considerate and caring, connect very well with other folks, and continue to build their circle of influence, so it really boils down to becoming a friend, taking a genuine interest in what others have to say, and being an active listener. Common interests are important, because if you're a person who enjoys football, then don't hang out with, or try and hang out with a bunch of people, that enjoy opera only. It's important to have these common denominators. Interesting people are generally interesting, they're funny, they have a great deal of energy, and they have ambition, so what we want to do, is let's go ahead and build ourselves up. Let's become more knowledgeable on subjects, improve ourselves, build up our self-confidence, and be somebody that's interesting, of somebody of high energy, someone who is well read. For example, there are a lot of self-help books out there. One of the best, it's a classic, is Dale Carnegie's book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. That's a must read for somebody who wants to understand, how to build long term friendships and relationships. Ultimately, what you want to do, is become associated with a network of individuals,who have common interests, goals. You may want to join a chess club, yacht club, a golf club, or Toastmasters. There's many options in the area. Meetup.com is a very good site, to begin to meet folks of common interests. That's how we attract people. I'm Joe Cuenco, Relationships For Life."