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Summary: A desire to have a partner who over sympathizes can put a relationship on the brink. Learn to recognize relationship problems like excessive intimacy claims from a communications expert in this free dating video.
Tracy Goodwin has a master’s in corporate communication and 10 years experience in professional speaking. Recipient of numerous public speaking awards and is a college professor of...read more
"Alright. There are a number of different types of reasons why relationships start to deteriorate. And, the first one I want to talk about is Excessive Intimacy Claims. Now, that's a pretty fancy terminology for basically saying this. Empathy. Sympathy. That's where it starts. One person wants another person in the relationship to be exactly as empathetic or sympathetic to their needs and wants and desires as they want them to be. And, that's not always the case. I may be able to be empathetic, which means I feel your pain. I walk in your shoes. I may be able to do that in certain situations. But, when you start wanting me to do it all the time I may not be able to do it. It also becomes about, I call it getting on the bandwagon with. And, what that means is I'm in a relationship with Joe and I hate Sally his boss. I want him to hate her. But, he's not going to. And, that creates a problem for me. Because, I want him to want what I want. I want him to sympathize with me. What happens when this starts to take place is it starts to restrict personal freedom. All of a sudden I can't really like who I want to like anymore. I can't really be friends with or feel the way I feel anymore. And, so I start running the risk of losing my identity. This is what happens when we talk about relationships becoming possessive."