Healing Breakup Wounds

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, life and relationship coach here in New York City, and the author of It's All About You. Healing break-up wounds can really take a lot less time than some people allow it to be. If it's two years later and you're still feeling so wounded by a break-up, that's not a good thing. So how do you do that? Remove all stimulus is really the easiest way. You're the one that really allowed yourself to have your heart broken and you're keeping yourself in that situations if you have...still have wounds from it. Any time you start thinking about that person, literally interrupt your thought and say, "No. I'm going to think about myself instead. I'm going to do something good for me." because any time you reminisce about anything at all that was good and nice with that other person, you're opening that wound only for it to get hurt again and you're keeping yourself feeling close to them. If you stop thinking about that stuff and you're not thinking about them at all, if you were to run into them, it would be, like, "Oh, yeah. Wow. I remember you," and it won't hurt you in that same way. But if you're thinking about them constantly and they're constantly on your mind, of course that's going to hurt you. And those little things about them are going to stimulate you and give you that punch in the gut kind of feeling. Those things are horrible. So really, just remove all stimulus and really stop thinking about it. You can. You can control your thoughts. Stop thinking about them and your wounds will heal really pretty quickly."