Tips on Surviving a Breakup

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, life and relationship coach here in New York City and the author of It's All About You. Tips to survive a breakup are first and foremost, get rid of everything that reminds you of that person. Get rid of all the pictures, anything they gave you, try not to go to the same places that you used to go to or if it's a place that is unavoidable that you have to go to, make a new happy memory there. Get a group of your friends together and plan a very special night there, so you can start to have new memories there. And try not to run the old highlights reel, I like to call it, of all the things you did together. The more you think about oh we did this together, we did that together, that's re-stimulating that for you and it's keeping you right there in that relationship still. If you can really can and you can interrupt your thoughts and say no, I'm not going to think about that and think about something else, think about something for you that's positive just for you and you will move on faster. Do not allow yourself to wallow in that. I mean give yourself a week or two that yeah, a lot of breaking up is a habit so it's about create letting go of that habit and creating a new habit. So if you've had that habit of having that person in your life, fill that with something else that's good for you that's going to make you happy."